“Just a friendly reminder that you CAN reach your goals, but it takes time and persistence. I can’t tell you how many times people expect to see drastic changes in a week or a month or even 6 months. Stop focussing on the end result and start focusing on the lifestyle. The people you see online, including myself, have been at this for years. Remember that.” ~ @bskyfitness (Instagram)
It’s one of the things I love most about social media – aimlessly scrolling through posts, when suddenly you find something that really hits home. Well, this afternoon, the quote stated above did just that. It spoke to me, giving me a reminder that I really needed today – that the super fit people I see on social media are not overnight sensations – they’ve been working hard for a long time to get where they are at.
My motivation has taken a nosedive lately. I have an internal battle each day with myself. I know I should be eating better and exercising a lot harder, but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I’ve been eating quite badly, not tracking in my food journal, and doing the bare minimum as far as workouts go. Yet, every day I look in the mirror, and want to lose weight. I want to be smaller again – to look good, and to wear, smaller and cuter clothes (especially now that it’s summer). I want to be fit and strong and ripped. I want others to see me as an inspiration. I want to feel healthier and have more energy and know I am giving my body the best that I can. But for some reason, I just can’t bring myself to do it.
Today, I am feeling a sense of motivation coming back though. My husband has been eating extremely healthy this week (tons of raw fruits and veggies and cutting back drastically on sugar). He said after a few days, he is already feeling better (plus, he’s down 8 lbs – it’s so unfair how quickly men can lose weight!). The fact that my husband is eating better has also inspired my 12-year-old stepson who struggles with his own junk food and sugar addiction (poor child is just like me!) And now, as I see my son want to eat better, my motivation increases too – after all, what’s more motivating than being a healthy role model for your children?
But one of the struggles I often face is the challenge of not seeing results fast enough. I scroll through social media admiring the tight, fit bodies of others and want the same results. It’s not necessarily that I compare myself to these girls, but I certainly want what they have. But too often I forget to think of the extremely hard work, persistence, and dedication it takes to get those bodies. I forget to think of the type of lifestyles people with those bodies have (and it certainly doesn’t involve very much ice cream, French fries, or long afternoons on the couch!)
Most importantly, I have to remind myself that it takes time to get there. Losing weight is a long journey. New, healthier habits aren’t established over night. It takes trial and error to figure out what works for you and it takes persistence and time to turn those things into an overall lifestyle. It takes conscious decision-making each and every day. It takes learning to pick yourself up when you fall and get right back on the wagon. The weight loss journey is certainly not an easy one but it is a possible one. With time, effort, persistence, and a hell of a lot of hard work. With learning not to compare yourselves to where others are on their journey but to honour yourself where you’re at and to keep pushing forward.
I need to remember that, not just today, but every day. I need to know that reaching goals may not be easy, but it’s certainly possible. More importantly, I need to lay off the ice cream, lace up my Nikes, and start pushing myself further in the right direction!