Consistency is Key: Perfection is Impossible

I am feeling very upset with myself tonight.  Frustrated and angry would more accurately describe it.  I just got back from another failed run.  I picked running back up earlier this summer and while some days of my new training program have been awesome, some have been really, really hard.  Today happened to be one of the hard ones. I was supposed to do a combined total of 34 minutes of running and about 18 minutes of walking (including warm-up and cool-down) but I didn’t even make it through half of the run before my body just couldn’t do it.

And while I know that this is just the way training goes (some days are good, some days are not), I’m also feeling frustrated because I know this is mostly my fault.  It’s no surprise that my body could not perform optimally tonight (as badly as I wanted it to), when I haven’t been taking care of it nutritionally.

Several months ago, I was put on a fairly restrictive nutrition plan by my naturopath.  The initial reasons for doing so were to heal my ulcerative colitis, overcome the extreme fatigue I’d been having, and to lose weight in a healthy way.  After doing food sensitivity and blood testing, my naturopath eliminated the following from my diet: wheat/gluten, dairy, sugar, corn, peanuts, chickpeas, and cane sugar.  It was discovered that I have a high amount of yeast in my gut (causing too much bad bacteria which causes my inflammation and ulcers) so she also put me on a yeast therapy treatment and gave me strict instructions to drastically cut back on sugar (which feeds the growth of yeast).  I was also put on a hemoglobin supplement (my low hemoglobin would be one cause of my extreme fatigue and probiotics  which would help boost healthy bacteria in the gut.

For a good while, I stuck pretty faithfully to this plan (with only a few minor cheats here and there) and took my supplements and treatments regularly. I saw almost immediate results – my boating and gas went down drastically, energy levels went up slightly, even my skin got clearer.

 

But, over the last few weeks I have lost my way.  It started when we went on vacation and I told myself I could have more “treats”,  but since coming home over a week ago, I just can not seem to get back on my nutrition plan.  In fact, I shamefully admit I have gone completely off of it.  I’ve been eating everything that hurts my body (white bread, bagels, crackers, peanut butter, tons of sugar, ice cream, cheese, fast food….) The hard thing is, I don’t know why I do this because nearly every time I do, I become consumed with guilt.  I tell myself I shouldn’t have it but I do anyway, and then I feel badly.  I tell myself I will eat healthier at the next meal, and then I don’t.  I buy healthy foods when I go grocery shopping, but then they go back on my counter while I eat junk instead.  And since my UC symptoms haven’t been drastic lately, it’s been easier for me to say “f*&$ it” and consumer whatever junk I want.

So it shouldn’t have came as a surprise that when I set out for my run tonight, I was battling some indigestion and my stomach was bloated.  And when I started the running intervals, I felt like I was carrying a load of bricks around my middle.  I felt heavy and sluggish.  On top of that, since the weather was overcast, I had way underestimated the humidity and was sweating within minutes. Guys, I loathe being hot.  Yes, I know you’re supposed to sweat when working out, but humidity just kills me!

Needless to say, about halfway through my run, I gave up and walked the rest of the way.  I instantly felt hot tears of frustration welling in my eyes.  The negative self-talk started up as I blamed myself for eating poorly and for not being able to fulfill the run I had hoped to do.

Maybe I am just not cut out for running, I thought. I’ve been dreading all my runs lately anyway.  Maybe I am better off just being fat and out of shape. This is your fault, you should have known better…. Maybe I need to get a modified program, this one is too hard. All you did was eat carbs and sugar all day and you thought you could get away with it!  You know better!  What were you thinking?!  You should have known this would catch up to you eventually!

But fortunately, my only saving grace tonight was that I’ve been working really hard on overcoming negative thoughts with positive ones.  Sure, that harsh, judgemental, “you’re-not-good-enough-and-never-will-be” voice immediately piped up in my head, but then moments later so did the inner voice I like to think of as “my friend”.

Today is just not your day but not every day will be perfect. Forgive yourself. Yes you haven’t been making the best food choices but you can change that.  It’s okay. You win some and you lose some, next time will be better.  You are going to keep trying.  Consistency will get you where you want to be.  You can do it, don’t give up on yourself.  Make one or two small changes every day and you will get there. Don’t give up.

And thankfully this positive, encouraging inner voice took over (and just so you know, I have to make a real effort for the positive voice to over-power the negative one, it’s not easy) because now I have had some time to reflect and to see that perfection is impossible but consistency is key and it’s never too late to get back on track.

What I have learned is that I need to remind myself why I started this nutrition plan in the first place.  It wasn’t primarily to lose weight as I’ve been thinking of it lately (and somehow I had foolishly convinced myself that I can “cheat” with my food as long as I am working out and won’t gain weight… even though I know that’s not the truth!)  The real reason I started this plan was to optimize my health.  Even though, I am not currently experiencing the severe symptoms of ulcerative colitis, I am definitely starting to notice some of the warning signs since I have been eating poorly again.  I’ve had far more gas and bloating lately, and am even starting to get bouts of indigestion again (something that I used to get so badly that I was taken to the hospital in the ambulance a few times because I thought I was having a gall bladder attack!)  And while my energy levels have been better lately, I know that is primarily because it’s summer (which means I’m off work and it’s sunny alot!) If I were working and eating this way, I’d be feeling sluggish, tired, or even depressed.  I know that if I clean up my diet, I will start to feel better.  My bloating will go down (one step closer to a flat stomach!) and the digestive pain and discomfort I have will go away.  My skin will clear, my energy levels will continue to increase, and it will get easier and easier to maintain the positive attitude that is so important to a journey of good health.

So although I may be feeling frustrated and angry with myself, I am grateful tonight that I know not to beat myself up (for too long anyway, haha!) and to take this as a learning experience.  It’s time to put my health (in particular my gut health) at the forefront again and to know that some days just aren’t my day, but that there’s always tomorrow and that I WLL NOT GIVE UP on my goals!

xo

 

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Positive Self-Talk: How it helps me to go from feeling crazy to feeling calm 💕

Life is messy.  Some days are hard and they’re hard for no particular reason.  Today was one of those days.  For no apparent reason, I let negative thoughts begin to formulate in my mind and for me, once it starts it’s ike a dangerous rollercoaster – one negative thought feeds into the next.  They snowball out of control until I am so overwhelmed by negativity, I lose all sense of myself.  Today, those feelings overtook my mind and my body until I was a hot, snotty, crying mess.  But now that I’m back on even ground, I realize that that’s okay.  (Trust me, in the height of these feelings and thoughts it’s anything but okay). We all have those days.  And I’m okay now.  I have grounded myself.  I have turned off the negative thoughts by thinking every positive thought I could think and then writing it down because that’s how I cope best.

 

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Now I feel so much better.  It’s about embracing it all.  The good, the wonderful, the terrible, the hard, and everything in between.  Here are my positive affirmations that helped turn my mind around today.  Once I got started they weren’t hard to come up with.  It’s when I am feeling the most intense feelings that my fingers fly over the keyboard the fastest. We have to be aware of when we’re filling our own minds with negative thoughts and use every strategy we can to turn them back into positive.  For me, it’s the only way I can go from being a complete emotional wreck, to feeling happy and calm again.  I simply turned on some calming music, shut myself into my room, and started to write to remind myself of all the reasons I should feel good.  What are your coping skills for the days when life just seems so hard?

Positive Self-Talk 💕

 

(While doing this I imagined I was talking to one of my best friends, because after all we should all be our own best friend!)

You have been working so hard at making yourself healthier. You have been educating yourself about nutrition and sugar and making changes to improve your health and weight.  You overcame the fierce addiction to coffee and flavoured cream and other junk food and treats.  You have been able to say No to them.  You have been brave enough to experiment with alternatives.  You sought out answers for yourself.  You have reached out for help and support when you needed it.  You have stood firmly by your own beliefs and stood true to them even when others you respect may disagree.  You have said no to fast food and temptations numerous times.  You are strong.  You have been feeling good about your body and the changes you see in it.  You are proud of yourself because you work so hard.  You have learned so much about school and technology lately and have worked hard to make engaging lessons for your students.  You have worked tirelessly and endlessly to help each and every individual student and to be the best teacher you can be.  You have stayed patient and have not been yelling at the kids when they frustrate you.  You are doing your best.  You are a hardworking, open-minded, dedicated teacher.  You are a positive person.  Be gentle with yourself.  You are YOU.  You are kind.  You want the best for people.  Your husband is amazing and suppportive.  He went to buy you cold medication when you weren’t feeling well.  He let you use the bigger blanket because you weren’t feeling well.  He listens to your irrational tangents and sits with you and continues to speak logically to you and ground you and he does it for as long as he needs to until you are okay.  You laughed with your husband and your son last night and it felt so good.  It felt so good to share a joke with Brandon and to watch him laugh at himself. It felt so good to hang out with Brad in the garage doing something of his choosing but just enjoying each other’s company and laughing together – it felt like we were dating again.  You have amazing family.  When you called your Mom yesterday her voice sounded so happy to hear from you.  Your nieces love you and were so excited to talk to you on video chat.  They are adorable and you love them so much.  You looked at your daughter’s grad photo this morning and thought about how beautiful she is and how proud you are of her.  You have a home that you have worked hard for, that you take good care of, and that you love to be in.  The sun is shining and summer is coming.  Soon you will go on vacation.  You will be near water and read books and go camping with your family.  You will feel invigorated by the city and by the fresh air and just by summer in general.  You have been trying to so hard.  I see your hard work, your endless dedication, it’s enough.  You are good enough.  You are happy and positive and loved and smart and dedicated and hard working and beautiful and special.   Now slow down.  Enjoy life.  Enjoy YOUR life and what truly makes you happy.  You may have to find it again.  It will take time but whatever you find it is good enough.  It will bring you joy and true happiness and peace and serenity.  Don’t listen to the judgements from others.  Most especially don’t judge yourself.  Don’t compare yourself to others.  You are okay.  Things will be okay. Life is hard sometimes.  Really, really hard.  It’s okay to be sad sometimes.  To feel frustrated, overwhelmed, not good enough.  But when those things happen, it’s okay.  It’s all okay.  It is life and you have such a beautiful life.  So many reasons to be happy.  You won’t always understood, have the answers, feel satisfied, but trust the process. One day at a time.  You got this. It’s all okay.  Everything is okay and you are happy, light, happy, and free.  I love you.  I love you so much.

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